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20 Dec 2020

Food for Happiness

When people get overwhelmed, stressed, sad or just tired, they react in different ways and try various strategies to overcome their negative feelings. I have friends that prefer to go out for a walk, others prefer to relax, listen to music, paint, exercise, meditate, writing their feelings down or to just pick up the phone and talk to a friend. I personally love to cook, to create a dish and share it with family and friends.

Food can put you in a good mood and if you have company while cooking it’s even better. Make easy and not complicated dishes with something that you have in the house, put in some music as well and distract yourself from negativity. A few years ago I was asked to work as a volunteer with a group of young people that were away from their families and trying to cope with life.

I remember the day I went to meet them. They were very curious about my Italian accent and a girl started to laugh and joke about how Italians eat pasta and pizza and in that moment I understood that food would be a good way to start my group counseling. We decided to make fresh pasta together. One person walked away, not interested in joining the rest and criticizing the decision to cook, but it was funny to see that person come back in the kitchen and start asking me questions about me and the food.

I love cooking with other people, it is a wonderful way to bond with others and sometimes it can make it easier for people to talk about their personal problems. Eat healthy. Eat enough. Eat with love.

Food for Happiness
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18 Dec 2020

Don’t follow the crowd, let the crowd follow you

Sometimes we think that the people around us are better than us because they lead a successful and luxury lifestyle and we strive to be their friends, act like them and we wish to have what they have.
Yet sometimes people with a great lifestyle are the saddest people who need to be loved the most. Be humble, be yourself, enjoy the little things in life and let your joy be contagious to others.

I used to allow people to criticise my way of thinking and the way I behave having a bubbly attitude. I spent years worrying I would not be accepted by others. When I was invited to people’s houses I would open my wardrobe and choose the same kind of clothes they were wearing to fit in. Nowadays I have become a strong woman, I wear what I like, I choose my friends wisely and I stand up for my values. Empathy is my strongest value. We are all unique, we all have different values and emotions and I fully respect people if they have different opinions as long as they don’t hurt anyone else. Believe in yourself and don’t let anyone stop you from pursuing your dreams. Life sometimes can be difficult and full of surprises, but if you build strong self confidence and keep a positive attitude you can overcome problems and suffer less.

Be unique, be honest, be your own person and be an inspiration to others. I have always had strong values and sometimes I have been the only person in a crowd with a different opinion but I always remained true to myself. At times I have had to use the strategy of listening and remaining silent and respect other people’s points of view.

Stand up for yourself, stand up for the people you love, don’t worry about what others say about you. They may need your help one day. A friend of mine told me for years that you can’t change people who are unpleasant, but I can change my approach to them. Sometimes being different can make all the difference.

09 Dec 2020

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You will be amazed how quickly you can create a better life by learning how to dump your past baggage and make the right choices. Whether you are divorced, stuck in an unhappy relationship, have no relationship, unhappy in your current job, been made redundant, struggling with your finances, or stuck in a rut and stagnant, life coaching or a personal development programme can change your life.
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